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Navigating the Rollercoaster of Emotions in Sobriety

Early sobriety is the most confusing and challenging time for most individuals working to stay sober. It can feel like a rollercoaster of emotions.

At first, you may feel like absolute garbage – detoxing from the otherworldly chemicals you’ve been ingesting for the past however many years. It’s scary to be outside of your comfort zone in a locked facility with no idea what to expect moving forward. You may have no idea how to cope with all of the new emotions, and want to avoid any social activities without using a substance. You will probably even have a few days when you regret deciding to go to treatment thinking your old way of life was easier.

However, some time will pass and you will begin to make some connections with the people around you. Usually, it begins with what your drug of choice was and you bond over that and share war stories. Then you start connecting a little deeper. Maybe you realize you both love the Cleveland Indians and are bummed they lost the World Series. You find out you like the same music and both watch Family Guy. Now you’re starting to get your feelings back within yourself. You haven’t felt anything in so long thanks to the substances you used to cope with life.

Slowly, an almost euphoric feeling arises – a new appreciation for life. You have big, big plans and you feel like you’re on top of the world. You have a picture in your head of this amazing, wonderful person you are becoming and can’t wait to get started on changing your life.

Unfortunately, along with these new feelings usually comes guilt and shame. The memories of pain we’ve caused to our families and friends. Jobs we’ve lost. Crimes we’ve committed. Harmful things we’ve done to ourselves. The rollercoaster of emotions comes flooding back. Luckily the friends you have made have more than likely shared the same guilt and shame. Now you build an even deeper connection and you’re comforted by the fact that you aren’t alone in all of this. Life is in the palm of your hands and you feel as if you can do everything you’ve wanted to do. travel dream job, dream partner, dream home. The chains that have bound you are now broken. Most of us call friends and relatives and exclaim “things will be different! I’ve changed and I have big aspirations ahead.” And you mean it.

After treatment, you go back into the real world and out of the comfort zone of treatment. This is what separates “the men from the boys,” if you will. Many of us move into halfway houses, we start at an IOP to keep accountable, and we start looking for meetings to attend and jobs to work. However, we tend to want things to go our way, and when they don’t, it’s easy for us to lose sight of the vision we had for ourselves. This is why it is crucial to hit the ground running with a 12-step program. Without it, we are doomed to return to our old way of living.

Now, the worst thing that can happen to someone in early sobriety is to get complacent. Some people call it the “pink cloud.” You feel great, you’re sober, and you’re showering daily. The rollercoaster goes up. What often happens is that we forget the deeds of our past and we start to ride the pink cloud we rode in on. The common reality is that the pink cloud will fade and all falls down, the rollercoaster that goes up, will eventually come down.

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When I was first getting sober, I felt very scared and lost without having a substance to help me get through my days. The realities of life and wreckage of my using career came crashing down on me. The vacation-like treatment center days were over; now I had to find a job, handle court cases, find transportation, all while remaining clean from drugs and alcohol.

In my past, I tried my best to avoid all real life responsibilities. I avoided intimate relationships and hardly opened up to people or expressed my feelings. Instead, I suppressed my feelings by drowning myself in a bottle or eating/shooting/sniffing a handful of pills. Wise folks with sobriety would tell me I needed to get out of my comfort zone and ask for help. I needed to ask a complete stranger to help take me through my steps, tell them my darkest secrets, trust them, and upon completing my steps, I would have a psychic change and spiritual experience of my own. This all seemed far-fetched to me, but I knew the life I had been living wasn’t one I wanted to continue.

If I told you my life was all cupcakes and rainbows in early sobriety, I would be lying. If I said there weren’t dark days and times I thought I would never get through, I would be lying. However, I listened to the people in the program that came before me and kept working on my program of recovery. I asked for help with even the smallest of problems in my life.

The program showed me how to have fun again, without needing a substance to enjoy myself. The loving fellowship introduced me to other alcoholics, who would take me to the movies, art shows, concerts, and various other activities I used to only do while under the influence. Through these experiences, I learned life could still be very much enjoyable without using. There is nothing like a group of ex-problem drinkers playing mini golf on a Friday night. But I was often reminded that all of the good times could be ripped away from me if I didn’t continue to do extensive work in my program.

As I said earlier, early sobriety can be one of the most difficult parts of recovery for addicts and alcoholics. The only way I’ve found to get through the bad times and keep the good times in your life is to listen to the people who came before you. Work on your steps and work within the program. Grit your teeth and fight through the lows – and don’t let the highs blind you of where you once were. The promises within the literature and what people tell you do in fact come true. You’ve just got to give yourself a chance to see it work in your life like thousands of other seemingly hopeless addicts before you.

Getting Help At Wayside House

If you are a woman struggling with addiction, Wayside House can help. We offer a women-only program and provide a safe, supportive environment to recover in. We have outstanding treatments and therapies that are often only found in more expensive programs. We offer a 90-day inpatient rehab with relapse prevention education, outpatient, and aftercare. Contact Wayside House at 800-655-0817 to learn more.

Testimonials

  • “Thank you Wayside for being there for her when she needed your help the most!!!”   Woohoo!!! 

  • Wayside taught me how to be a woman and live life clean & sober!

    Alexandra N.

  • “Wayside is more than treatment. It is a home. I grew up emotionally in that little house. I was there for 9 months and they were the best 9 months of my life. To have time to learn about yourself and take the time to focus on yourself is such a blessing. The plants I planted are still there. I see them in the photos. Such a special place!!”

    Amanda O.

  • This is an excellent treatment facility and all women down in Delray Beach, FL. …if you have anything you can send to help these young/older women, believe me anything is appreciated. This place and God did wonders for my girl.

    Amy G

  • Wayside House is where i went to rehab & they are AMAZING!! Its a 90 day program & alot of the girls have absolutely nothing when they move into the house. If your feel generous, or just want to help, it’s a worthy cause!!  Mandy W.

  • “What a rich heritage Wayside House has!”

    Allen S.

  • “It was so nice to hear from Wayside House.  I am still employed and I love my job!!! I will have 9 months on the 21st of October…..All thanks to Wayside and you ladies at the Posner Center!!!!🤗”

    Rita P.

  • “Tonight’s Wayside House Anniversary meeting and listening to the journey’s with 1,2,6,22,29 and 33 years in sobriety empowered my heart! So happy for one of the girls I sent to Wayside House.”

    Katrin O.

  • “Wayside does such good work in our community.” 

    Jan S.

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    What People Are Saying

    • “I have always supported Wayside House — I know women who have come through their program and support all they do. If you don’t know about this fabulous place I encourage you to become involved and find out more — they are an anchor in Delray Beach and their history speaks for itself.” 

      Nancy S.

    • “I went through Wayside House & it was the first place that actually felt like home to me. The staff actually care about their clients and their sobriety. I worked through so much here without fear of being judged. I love wayside & it will always have a special place in my heart along with ALL the amazing women who work there.”

      Mandy W

    • I so wish I could tell the girls how much Wayside saved my life,  and after 31 years sober, it still is just “One Day at a Time” and “The Serenity Prayer.” I will always remember those first days of being at Wayside and how the girls , the counselors , and the House put me back on track to living a fulfilled and Sober life . I followed the AA steps, got a wonderful sponsor and have followed that path ever since. — Pamela R.

    • “Thank you Wayside for being there for her when she needed your help the most!!!”   Woohoo!!! 

    • Wayside taught me how to be a woman and live life clean & sober!

      Alexandra N.

    • “Wayside is more than treatment. It is a home. I grew up emotionally in that little house. I was there for 9 months and they were the best 9 months of my life. To have time to learn about yourself and take the time to focus on yourself is such a blessing. The plants I planted are still there. I see them in the photos. Such a special place!!”

      Amanda O.

    • This is an excellent treatment facility and all women down in Delray Beach, FL. …if you have anything you can send to help these young/older women, believe me anything is appreciated. This place and God did wonders for my girl.

      Amy G

    • Wayside House is where i went to rehab & they are AMAZING!! Its a 90 day program & alot of the girls have absolutely nothing when they move into the house. If your feel generous, or just want to help, it’s a worthy cause!!  Mandy W.

    • Allen S.

      “What a rich heritage Wayside House has!”

    • Rita P.

      “It was so nice to hear from Wayside House.  I am still employed and I love my job!!! I will have 9 months on the 21st of October…..All thanks to Wayside and you ladies at the Posner Center!!!!🤗”

    • Katrin O.

      “Tonight’s Wayside House Anniversary meeting and listening to the journey’s with 1,2,6,22,29 and 33 years in sobriety empowered my heart! So happy for one of the girls I sent to Wayside House.”

    • Jan S.

      “Wayside does such good work in our community.” 

    • Leah J.

      “I just wanted to thank you for how you and the team make the world a better place.  I won’t claim to understand the things you sacrifice, but you are truly wonderful for doing so.“

    • Janine T.

      “I  highly recommend Wayside Women’s in Delray Beach. My daughter completed their wonderful program, she’ll have 2 years July 1st. They have an active alumni. I couldn’t say enough good things about them, they’ve been doing this since mid70’s.”

    • Stacy J.

      “ Thankful for my sobriety and for Wayside! “

    • Susan B.

      “Wayside House was and is an amazing place to me. I am on a journey that is better than I could have ever imagined. The strength of the women that came before me, that are beside me, and those that are there now teach me how to live “.

    • Lisa D.

      “Wayside saved my life and I will never be able to repay them for everything they have done for me.”

    • Dolores A.

      “Wayside house saved my daughter’s life. She transformed into the beautiful woman I knew she could be. It’s only been a few months but one day at a time she and I are enjoying her recovery journey!!!”

    • Jeanne H.

      “We appreciate all that you do to help individuals in recovery, demonstrating God’s love in our community. Your staff at Wayside House continue to help in so many ways, women and their families that need the love, care and support that you are able to provide. Thank you so much for all you do for them.  May God continue to bless you, your staff and your volunteers each and every day for the light you provide for our community.”

    • Susan C.

      “ Wayside is “the light”! Congratulations on the article in the Palm Beach Post
      for all you do to make the commitment to help those in need.”

    • Lynne B.

      “I will always be grateful to Wayside for giving my daughter the tools and knowledge to live a sober life on the outside. You changed her life thank you thank you thank you, may all the people that pass through your wonderful cozy house succeed in sobriety as well.”

    • Katy B.

      “I am sober and happy today thanks to Wayside.”

    • A.D.

      “Having the opportunity to go to Wayside was the best thing I’ve ever done. They lovingly deconstructed my life so I could put it back together. They are a serious program that gave me the ability to understand myself in a way I never thought was possible. They didn’t baby me and they taught me how to be beautifully authentic with myself and those around me. I really can’t thank them enough.”

    • Susan T.

      “Please keep up your wonderful work; the kids of south Florida need you.”

    • Jaimie K.

      “I am making this donation and thank you for all you do!”

    • Pam H.

      “Celebrating 29 years 7/22/2016. Sponsoring, 3-5 meetings a week, and forever grateful to Wayside House!”

    • Laura B.

      “I will be celebrating my 17th year clean and sober.  PLEASE share with the celebrants that I am with them in spirit even though I can’t be with them.  Wayside rocks!  Remind them to stay until the magic happens.”

    • BH alumni

      “I just want to give a shout out to the Wayside staff and alumni who organized and participated in the first annual gratitude dinner. The entire evening was absolutely devine! Wayside House saved my life and I am so very happy that you are at the helm.”

    • Brenda

      “Just walking down memory lane! I Love Wayside House! I went through twice!!
      LOL!! Clean and sober today! Love to all the women! XOXO”

    • Ashley

      “Thank you to Marlies and the Posner Center because without your guidance I wouldn’t have been pushed to pursue what I love and want out of a job and school. You’re amazing!”

    • Colletta D.

      “Proud to be a donor supporter of your efforts.”

    • Sara W.

      “Wayside House saved my life. It was a place that gave me a purpose to follow my dreams. And gave me a life that I never thought could be possible. It is a place where God lives in the lives of so many recovering women. Thank you.”

    • Andrea S.

      “So many miracles and beautiful souls are at Wayside. It’s a very special place.”

    • Phoebe M.

      “What an incredible gift to have gone to Wayside House.  Keep up the great work!”

    • Kathy G.

      “I’m so grateful to be a Wayside Winner 12/89 . One day at a Time.”

    • Christine D.

      “I have to commend Wayside House. They are a 1st class treatment center.”

    • Christine A.

      “I went through Wayside House in 1991 and have been clean and sober for 23 years. I have had four children, two grandchildren, and am happily married. The aftercare and parenting groups that Wayside had is something that helped me so very much as a new parent who was fairly new in recovery. I now have a Bachelor’s degree in social work and am working on a Master’s degree in counseling specializing in addictions counseling. If I had not been placed in Wayside House so many years ago I would have never been able to achieve the things that I have in my life. I am forever grateful for the blessing it has had in my life!”

    • Jeffrey Lane Esq., Weiner, Lynne & Thompson P.A.

      “Wayside is the benchmark by which I hold other similar facilities too.”

    • John Lehman, President FARR

      “I know many women whose lives have been greatly impacted by the quality support they experienced while enrolled and residing in your program. My first hand knowledge dates back to 1980 and I can attest to Wayside’s long tradition of excellence.”

    • J.L.

      “Wayside House saved my sobriety at a critical time in my life. My HP knew I needed to be there and surrounded by strong women who believed in me. Thank you!”

    • Evelyn H.

      “ My life has changed very deeply. I have been given the gift of life in sobriety and treating it like a present.”

    • Cynthia F.

      “I hated God & tried not to believe in any higher power before getting sober. Now I know that each day is a gift and
      that all things are possible through my spiritual connection. All of life is a miracle and for the ultimate good.”

    • Liz D.

      “I just wanted to send my gratitude and thanks for all you have done for me and thousands of women out there recovering from addictions.”

    • Sally W.

      “God bless your work at Wayside.”

    • T.P.

      “Thank you for all that you have done to make me experience Wayside and the true change in my life through this program. I am grateful.”

    • Cindy

      “To all of you fortunate enough to celebrate the holidays at Wayside, I hope you find peace and happiness.
      My Christmas at Wayside was one of the best ever as I received the lasting gift of sobriety. God Bless you all!”

    • Anonymous

      “ My children have been returned and I have found God.”

    • Anonymous

      “Wayside House and God have given me a life I never thought I deserved.”

    • Anonymous

      “Wayside House played a very big role in treating our daughter. We will be forever grateful for you and our blessings from the Lord.”

    • Anonymous

      “ I have restored relationships with my family and learned how to love others. I am accountable, help and trust others and enjoy living life. I have peace and I don’t worry. I know that everything is going to be OK. I also attend three meetings a week and sponsor several women.”

    • Anonymous

      “ By spending time with my awesome God every morning who saved me by touching my life while at Wayside. God continues to draw me close to him.”

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