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How Do You Know If You’ve Really Hit Rock Bottom?

One of the most commonly used idioms throughout the world of addiction recovery and addiction treatment is “rock bottom.” Family members and friends of addicts and alcoholics are told to take a step back, allowing their loved ones to hit rock bottom. Newly sober individuals may hear men and women sharing their stories in AA meetings, recounting their personal rock bottoms – the moments during which they fully and authentically surrendered.

 

I remember listening to others share about their personal rock bottoms – sitting in jail cells, drunk and alone; killing an innocent victim in a drunk driving accident; being stabbed in the chest during a drug deal gone wrong. I remember thinking to myself, “Wow, things certainly haven’t gotten that bad for me. Maybe I’m not an alcoholic, after all. And if I am, I have a lot more room for error.” I went back out after being in rehab for the first time in California – I started drinking again within days of my release, assuming that the consequences simply hadn’t been great enough. And maybe they hadn’t. Drinking was still fun for me (on occasion). I had just turned 21, and it seemed to me that I had at least another decade of solid intoxication ahead of me.

 

And then, for whatever reason, drinking stopped being fun. By my senior year of college, I was drinking daily – sometimes in the morning – and blacking out almost every night. My grades had slipped immensely, and I was one poor test grade away from academic probation. Many of my old friends no longer wanted to spend time with me (I condemned them for not being able to “keep up” when in reality, they were simply fulfilling their responsibilities and taking care of their bodies). Nothing had gone too terribly wrong – I still had a place to live, I was still taking care of my bills and payments, and I was clinging tightly to a restaurant job that I probably should have lost months before. I had a boyfriend, a best friend (who drank like I did), and no tangible reason to quit – aside from the fact that I was utterly and completely miserable. I hated myself and my life was essentially futile. I was living with no sense of purpose, no motivation, and no overwhelming desire to change my ways.

 

I graduated college and continued drinking heavily. I felt totally empty inside, but still… I remembered hearing the men and women in the meetings I had attended talking about their bottoms, and I figured that things still hadn’t gotten bad enough to go back. AA was for people that were on the brink of death. Wasn’t it? Well, maybe I was on the brink of death after all. I was bound to eventually kill myself if I continued to feel the way I did. Either that, or I’d get behind the wheel after a long night of drinking, go home with the wrong stranger, or find myself in another precarious situation that would inevitably result in my untimely demise. So I decided to hit a meeting. And what I heard there changed my life.

depressed girl sitting on steps alone

 

“Your rock bottom happens when you decide to stop digging.” So simple and so profound, and exactly what I needed to hear. I didn’t need to continue drinking just because I had not yet become homeless or jobless, and because not all of my bridges had been burned to the ground. I was miserable and drinking was no longer serving me and that was enough reason to stop. Rather than continuously comparing my story to the stories of others, I would honestly evaluate my own life. I didn’t have to let things get as bad as they potentially could; I just had to believe that if I didn’t commit to recovery, I would live the rest of my life fighting to stay afloat. And one day, without question, I would sink. Addiction is a highly progressive disease, and things certainly hadn’t been getting any better. If I stopped digging, I could prevent them from getting any worse. That was a reassuring thought.

 

The idea of hitting rock bottom can be detrimental. The addicted brain can take any piece of information and manipulate it into a valid reason to continue drinking and using drugs. The key is to take a fearless, searching, and honest look at the quality of your own life. Are you happy? Are you content? Are you living a life of purpose; a life of fulfillment, meaning, and rewarding interpersonal relationships? If not, what is holding you back? Keep in mind the fact that substance abuse is very often a symptom of deeper, underlying issues. In order for these issues to be adequately resolved, an extended period of sobriety must be maintained.

 

Parents are also often told to take a step back and let their children hit rock bottom – they are told that hitting bottom will help speed up the necessity of recovery. In some instances, this is true. A parent who houses, feeds, and entirely supports a young adult who is grappling with addiction may, in fact, be enabling him. However, when it comes to heroin addiction, stepping back and allowing an individual to hit bottom may result in death. In some cases, intervening and forcing treatment upon an individual is the only way to ensure an introduction to recovery. With the rapid escalation of the nationwide heroin epidemic comes a whole new meaning to the phrase – for the heroin addict, rock bottom means death. If you have a child or loved one who is struggling with addiction, it is absolutely crucial that you confer with an addiction specialist in order to determine the best steps to take. In most cases, a professionally staged intervention will prove to be beneficial. For more information on getting help for a loved one who is struggling with addiction, please feel free to contact us today. And remember – your rock bottom occurs whenever you decide to stop digging. There is no reason that you can’t put down that shovel today!

Getting Help at Wayside House

If you are a woman struggling with addiction and mental health issues, Wayside House can help. We offer a women-only program and provide a safe, supportive environment to recover in. We have outstanding treatments and therapies that are often only found in more expensive programs. We offer inpatient rehab with various therapies, relapse prevention education, outpatient, and aftercare, as well as services for medical professionals and veterans. Contact Wayside House at 800-655-0817 to learn more.

 

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  • “Thank you Wayside for being there for her when she needed your help the most!!!”   Woohoo!!! 

  • Wayside taught me how to be a woman and live life clean & sober!

    Alexandra N.

  • “Wayside is more than treatment. It is a home. I grew up emotionally in that little house. I was there for 9 months and they were the best 9 months of my life. To have time to learn about yourself and take the time to focus on yourself is such a blessing. The plants I planted are still there. I see them in the photos. Such a special place!!”

    Amanda O.

  • This is an excellent treatment facility and all women down in Delray Beach, FL. …if you have anything you can send to help these young/older women, believe me anything is appreciated. This place and God did wonders for my girl.

    Amy G

  • Wayside House is where i went to rehab & they are AMAZING!! Its a 90 day program & alot of the girls have absolutely nothing when they move into the house. If your feel generous, or just want to help, it’s a worthy cause!!  Mandy W.

  • “What a rich heritage Wayside House has!”

    Allen S.

  • “It was so nice to hear from Wayside House.  I am still employed and I love my job!!! I will have 9 months on the 21st of October…..All thanks to Wayside and you ladies at the Posner Center!!!!🤗”

    Rita P.

  • “Tonight’s Wayside House Anniversary meeting and listening to the journey’s with 1,2,6,22,29 and 33 years in sobriety empowered my heart! So happy for one of the girls I sent to Wayside House.”

    Katrin O.

  • “Wayside does such good work in our community.” 

    Jan S.

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    • “I have always supported Wayside House — I know women who have come through their program and support all they do. If you don’t know about this fabulous place I encourage you to become involved and find out more — they are an anchor in Delray Beach and their history speaks for itself.” 

      Nancy S.

    • “I went through Wayside House & it was the first place that actually felt like home to me. The staff actually care about their clients and their sobriety. I worked through so much here without fear of being judged. I love wayside & it will always have a special place in my heart along with ALL the amazing women who work there.”

      Mandy W

    • I so wish I could tell the girls how much Wayside saved my life,  and after 31 years sober, it still is just “One Day at a Time” and “The Serenity Prayer.” I will always remember those first days of being at Wayside and how the girls , the counselors , and the House put me back on track to living a fulfilled and Sober life . I followed the AA steps, got a wonderful sponsor and have followed that path ever since. — Pamela R.

    • “Thank you Wayside for being there for her when she needed your help the most!!!”   Woohoo!!! 

    • Wayside taught me how to be a woman and live life clean & sober!

      Alexandra N.

    • “Wayside is more than treatment. It is a home. I grew up emotionally in that little house. I was there for 9 months and they were the best 9 months of my life. To have time to learn about yourself and take the time to focus on yourself is such a blessing. The plants I planted are still there. I see them in the photos. Such a special place!!”

      Amanda O.

    • This is an excellent treatment facility and all women down in Delray Beach, FL. …if you have anything you can send to help these young/older women, believe me anything is appreciated. This place and God did wonders for my girl.

      Amy G

    • Wayside House is where i went to rehab & they are AMAZING!! Its a 90 day program & alot of the girls have absolutely nothing when they move into the house. If your feel generous, or just want to help, it’s a worthy cause!!  Mandy W.

    • Allen S.

      “What a rich heritage Wayside House has!”

    • Rita P.

      “It was so nice to hear from Wayside House.  I am still employed and I love my job!!! I will have 9 months on the 21st of October…..All thanks to Wayside and you ladies at the Posner Center!!!!🤗”

    • Katrin O.

      “Tonight’s Wayside House Anniversary meeting and listening to the journey’s with 1,2,6,22,29 and 33 years in sobriety empowered my heart! So happy for one of the girls I sent to Wayside House.”

    • Jan S.

      “Wayside does such good work in our community.” 

    • Leah J.

      “I just wanted to thank you for how you and the team make the world a better place.  I won’t claim to understand the things you sacrifice, but you are truly wonderful for doing so.“

    • Janine T.

      “I  highly recommend Wayside Women’s in Delray Beach. My daughter completed their wonderful program, she’ll have 2 years July 1st. They have an active alumni. I couldn’t say enough good things about them, they’ve been doing this since mid70’s.”

    • Stacy J.

      “ Thankful for my sobriety and for Wayside! “

    • Susan B.

      “Wayside House was and is an amazing place to me. I am on a journey that is better than I could have ever imagined. The strength of the women that came before me, that are beside me, and those that are there now teach me how to live “.

    • Lisa D.

      “Wayside saved my life and I will never be able to repay them for everything they have done for me.”

    • Dolores A.

      “Wayside house saved my daughter’s life. She transformed into the beautiful woman I knew she could be. It’s only been a few months but one day at a time she and I are enjoying her recovery journey!!!”

    • Jeanne H.

      “We appreciate all that you do to help individuals in recovery, demonstrating God’s love in our community. Your staff at Wayside House continue to help in so many ways, women and their families that need the love, care and support that you are able to provide. Thank you so much for all you do for them.  May God continue to bless you, your staff and your volunteers each and every day for the light you provide for our community.”

    • Susan C.

      “ Wayside is “the light”! Congratulations on the article in the Palm Beach Post
      for all you do to make the commitment to help those in need.”

    • Lynne B.

      “I will always be grateful to Wayside for giving my daughter the tools and knowledge to live a sober life on the outside. You changed her life thank you thank you thank you, may all the people that pass through your wonderful cozy house succeed in sobriety as well.”

    • Katy B.

      “I am sober and happy today thanks to Wayside.”

    • A.D.

      “Having the opportunity to go to Wayside was the best thing I’ve ever done. They lovingly deconstructed my life so I could put it back together. They are a serious program that gave me the ability to understand myself in a way I never thought was possible. They didn’t baby me and they taught me how to be beautifully authentic with myself and those around me. I really can’t thank them enough.”

    • Susan T.

      “Please keep up your wonderful work; the kids of south Florida need you.”

    • Jaimie K.

      “I am making this donation and thank you for all you do!”

    • Pam H.

      “Celebrating 29 years 7/22/2016. Sponsoring, 3-5 meetings a week, and forever grateful to Wayside House!”

    • Laura B.

      “I will be celebrating my 17th year clean and sober.  PLEASE share with the celebrants that I am with them in spirit even though I can’t be with them.  Wayside rocks!  Remind them to stay until the magic happens.”

    • BH alumni

      “I just want to give a shout out to the Wayside staff and alumni who organized and participated in the first annual gratitude dinner. The entire evening was absolutely devine! Wayside House saved my life and I am so very happy that you are at the helm.”

    • Brenda

      “Just walking down memory lane! I Love Wayside House! I went through twice!!
      LOL!! Clean and sober today! Love to all the women! XOXO”

    • Ashley

      “Thank you to Marlies and the Posner Center because without your guidance I wouldn’t have been pushed to pursue what I love and want out of a job and school. You’re amazing!”

    • Colletta D.

      “Proud to be a donor supporter of your efforts.”

    • Sara W.

      “Wayside House saved my life. It was a place that gave me a purpose to follow my dreams. And gave me a life that I never thought could be possible. It is a place where God lives in the lives of so many recovering women. Thank you.”

    • Andrea S.

      “So many miracles and beautiful souls are at Wayside. It’s a very special place.”

    • Phoebe M.

      “What an incredible gift to have gone to Wayside House.  Keep up the great work!”

    • Kathy G.

      “I’m so grateful to be a Wayside Winner 12/89 . One day at a Time.”

    • Christine D.

      “I have to commend Wayside House. They are a 1st class treatment center.”

    • Christine A.

      “I went through Wayside House in 1991 and have been clean and sober for 23 years. I have had four children, two grandchildren, and am happily married. The aftercare and parenting groups that Wayside had is something that helped me so very much as a new parent who was fairly new in recovery. I now have a Bachelor’s degree in social work and am working on a Master’s degree in counseling specializing in addictions counseling. If I had not been placed in Wayside House so many years ago I would have never been able to achieve the things that I have in my life. I am forever grateful for the blessing it has had in my life!”

    • Jeffrey Lane Esq., Weiner, Lynne & Thompson P.A.

      “Wayside is the benchmark by which I hold other similar facilities too.”

    • John Lehman, President FARR

      “I know many women whose lives have been greatly impacted by the quality support they experienced while enrolled and residing in your program. My first hand knowledge dates back to 1980 and I can attest to Wayside’s long tradition of excellence.”

    • J.L.

      “Wayside House saved my sobriety at a critical time in my life. My HP knew I needed to be there and surrounded by strong women who believed in me. Thank you!”

    • Evelyn H.

      “ My life has changed very deeply. I have been given the gift of life in sobriety and treating it like a present.”

    • Cynthia F.

      “I hated God & tried not to believe in any higher power before getting sober. Now I know that each day is a gift and
      that all things are possible through my spiritual connection. All of life is a miracle and for the ultimate good.”

    • Liz D.

      “I just wanted to send my gratitude and thanks for all you have done for me and thousands of women out there recovering from addictions.”

    • Sally W.

      “God bless your work at Wayside.”

    • T.P.

      “Thank you for all that you have done to make me experience Wayside and the true change in my life through this program. I am grateful.”

    • Cindy

      “To all of you fortunate enough to celebrate the holidays at Wayside, I hope you find peace and happiness.
      My Christmas at Wayside was one of the best ever as I received the lasting gift of sobriety. God Bless you all!”

    • Anonymous

      “ My children have been returned and I have found God.”

    • Anonymous

      “Wayside House and God have given me a life I never thought I deserved.”

    • Anonymous

      “Wayside House played a very big role in treating our daughter. We will be forever grateful for you and our blessings from the Lord.”

    • Anonymous

      “ I have restored relationships with my family and learned how to love others. I am accountable, help and trust others and enjoy living life. I have peace and I don’t worry. I know that everything is going to be OK. I also attend three meetings a week and sponsor several women.”

    • Anonymous

      “ By spending time with my awesome God every morning who saved me by touching my life while at Wayside. God continues to draw me close to him.”

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